WHAT ARE YOU COMMUNICATING?

Your presence is a walking, breathing and speaking billboard. You are always communicating something by the way you look, behave and the words that fall out of your mouth. Believe it or not your non-verbal communication speaks louder than what you actually say, but both are important factors in elevating your presence.

Human beings are sensory beings. We pick up on people’s energy, body language and smell faster than our brain compute language. Within seconds of coming into contact with someone you have already made up your mind about them. It is worth investing a little time and also money into learning how your verbal and nonverbal communication style is perceived by your intended audience.

Are you looking to elevate your presence to move up the corporate ladder? Or, be a thought leader in your field of expertise? I already know your answer is "YES!" Otherwise, why would you be reading this?

Once you have passed all of the non-verbal cues and drew in your intended audience. They are waiting with bated breathe to hear what you have to say. And at this stage of the game, what you say is just as important as how you say it. Here are a few surefire tips to have them pay attention:

  • Make eye contact (yes, make contact with their eyeballs)

  • Find a high and low clear tone in which to speak (you’ll need someone else’s ear for this one)

  • Have concise and compelling things on hand to speak about

Most extreme extroverts like myself do these things with ease, but often times we miss the mark by not speaking concisely. Practice a few key speaking points to have in your back pocket at all times for various different audiences, this works extremely well for introverts as well. These few key speaking points said concisely will help you bridge the gap to speak more at length on the spot or in the future.  

If you take a few cues from Donald Trump’s style of communication you might also do the following:

  • Speak with authority

  • Speak with passion

  • Speak your truth apologetically

I’m assuming you are an ethical thought leader, so do your homework and check your facts. But by all means don’t be afraid to ruffle a few feathers, you will not be liked by all. The people who resonates with your message will welcome your point of view.

Last but not least have some consideration for how your audience listens to and responds to you. To impact someone else’s behavior you have to speak to them in a way in which they can hear you. You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across, your ideas won’t get anywhere.

If your audience speaks loudly match their volume. If they are serene and calm speaking people, don’t walk in shouting at the top of your lungs. Be mindful of your audience.

KNOW THYSELF

A woman with a really strong presence knows herself. This is not to say she isn’t still becoming who she wants to be. However, she has clarity about who she is and does not pretend to be something she is not.

This type of personal knowing exhibits confidence and confidence, girlfriend, is attractive.

Since you have a fire in your belly to share your special gifts with the world, you must take stock in all of your assets. Once you clearly know and understand them yourself, people who are aligned with you will easily identify with you and want what you have to offer or say.

There were a few defining moments in my life that clearly defined who I am. The biggest one was forgiving my father. I felt the weight of resentment drop from my body and immediately saw myself as bold, free and beautiful. Words by which I live my life.

Anytime I have a major decision to make, I ask myself, “Am I being bold or am I acting out of my fears?” “Does it provide me freedom or weigh me down?” and “Is this something a person who represents beauty would do?"

  • What's been a defining moment in your life? A moment where your response to your circumstances displayed the type of character you admire or want to display more of.
     
  • Can you identify 3 word that represents the person you were being during that defining moment?
     
  • Write out these words and formulate questions that will help ground yourself in your truth when faced with major or even minor decisions.

Lastly, but definitely not least, create time in your daily schedule to be with yourself. Meditate. Walk. Journal. Pray. Practice yoga. Read things that feed your soul. The woman who takes care of her emotional and spiritual well-being definitely has an alluring presence.